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Life and Times of a Working Cowgirl

The Life You Make is the Life You Get.

I spent the entire day in the car driving my daughter back to New Mexico State University for her second semester of her freshman year. What a treat it is to spend five uninterrupted hours with one of this country’s finest young adults. Our media and societal portrayals of America’s youth are often negative and condescending when my experience has shown me that America’s youth are a vibrant well spring of hope, generosity and peace. With my hope restored I headed back to the ranch alone.  The five hour return trip was filled with uninterrupted iPod  and radio listening.

My friend Verlon Thompson was on the Bob Edward show today. He is one of the most gracious and humble men I have ever met. He spoke about playing backup for Guy Clark for nearly twenty years. It takes a special person to play a supporting role like that and as I drove along today I heard one of his songs called “Perfect Love” that may shed some light on why this seems to work so well for him. The lyrics go “the love you make is the love you get”. That stuck out in my mind as a fact that is also true about life. The life we have is the life we’ve made. No one else is responsible for our lives. Verlon has the life he’s made and he embraces all the opportunities and experience he has gained for it. It’s wonderful having people like that in my life to keep me honest and focused on making the life I want.

This week I finished the final edit on my novel. Set it up on Amazon, Kindle and Smashwords and it is now available in ebook form and will soon be available in paperback. I never dreamed I would be a published author but once I wrote a novel I decided it was something I really wanted. I have spent the past month turning that idea into a reality. I know there are people who will discount my status as an author because I don’t have an agent or some big publishing house. They may be right but for me, for my life this was the path I chose and right now I couldn’t be happier. It’s amazing to go to Amazon and search for “Have You Seen Charlie?” and see my book on sale. That’s the life I made.

My husband Barney and I have practiced living with intention for years. This past year was filled with our intentions becoming realities. It’s not magic and we can’t just get what we want by wishing for it, but we do have clear thoughts and ideas about what we want from our lives and what we need to do to make that happen. Passing this skill onto our daughters has been a wonderful process. Empowering them to take control of their lives and create the lives they want hasn’t alway been easy but watching Amelia flourish in her first year of college has made it all worthwhile.

So go ahead take a long look at your life. It’s the life you’ve made. Is it the life you want?